Common Question :
Don’t you just love having mixed race babies? They’re the cutest.
Answer 📷 :
I get it. Apartheid really messed us up as South Africans, I know why it’s a spectacle to see a black mum with mixed race, light skinned children. And of course, globally, so insidious is this bloodclat white supremacy, it has made it almost impossible for the humanity, and beauty of black people to be acknowledged, celebrated and respected, so mixed race kids of black and white parents are still seen as an exotic novelty, because you know, anything but black.
More times than I care to count, when I’m out with my son, people ‘confuse’ me for the nanny or wonder out loud whose kid I’ve abducted, or if my baby daddy is an old white man whose pension I’m after.
I find it frustrating and insulting to be confronted with such casual prejudice, so often. And people wield their ignorance like a rank manager wields his sjambok.
I lie awake at night & stress about how race relations in South Africa will affect my children. I so badly want to protect them from family and strangers alike, who may, in their ignorance or malice, make them feel like they don’t quite belong, because they don’t fit neatly into a black or white box.
I am ready to fight school teachers and relatives alike.
I know that the implications of Alliancepartner’s race and mine aren’t incidental. The fact that we’re different races is not a big deal to us, but it’s something, in the world we live in.
Our politics are imperfect but we strive to do and be better. We are aligned and committed to deepening our consciousness so that we can create a family ethic that will empower our children to hold their own & be affirmed in their heritage & identity. But… if anyone comes at my kids in any way, whether it’s “so, what are you?” or on that rainbow nation tip, they’re going to catch these hands. Madiba’s magic will not save them.